I'm going to give this another go. But I need to be more overt. I'm looking for a sub, to explore with others and this has to be done in real life, no more playing online. I know what I want, I know that to respect others' desires, whether sub, Dom, anything they want to be, is vitally important and I know that I can fulfil and exceed desires. So, confidence is not a problem, now I just need to find the right people.